🇬🇧 How to be a successful model

Do you want to be a model? Or do you have kids who want to be? I can help you on the path to becoming a successful model.

I am Nycka Nunes, a visual artist and photographer. I also work as a style consultant and have been in the fashion industry since 1981 and took a modeling course when I was 16 (I didn't want to be a model, I knew my hips were and are too wide for a standard model). So, all my expertise is the perfect way to reveal new models to the industry.

First of all, you need to know that models have a minimum height of 1.75m for women and 1.80m for men. If the person interested in being a model is shorter, I can do a photo shoot, but the most recommended path would be commercial modeling, not runway modeling. Commercial models have no height, age, weight, etc. restrictions.

I have already written about the reasons why runway models are usually tall and thin here. If you, like me, don't fit the standard model's measurements, nowadays there is the possibility of being a plus-size model. Contrary to what some say, not all plus-size models are fat. Plus-size is a term used for models who are larger than standard models. I have also talked about this in this other text.

An additional recommendation: The skin of model candidates should be smooth, so that makeup alone can hide any imperfections, dark circles, etc.

That said, model candidates can choose between my personal branding consultancy, where I can provide ongoing support to create opportunities for these people, including photo shoots and videos simulating fashion shows from time to time, or opt for isolated photo shoots.

I can suggest locations for high-impact photos, choose clothes for the photo shoot, and have hairdressers and makeup artists to help create the perfect images. I tend to include photos with more creative outfits, rather than just photos with regular clothes like jeans and a t-shirt. Clothes that someone would wear to a luxury or haute couture show are essential for anyone who wants to reach this level in their career. You don't have to worry about anything, just hire my work, respect the terms of service and commitments, and wait for the results.

Read the "Commitments" page and then go to the services page to hire the service that you think will offer you the most advantages to build a successful career. Services are available worldwide.

Nycka Nunes

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🇬🇧 Project: Self-esteem and self-image

Self-esteem and self-image are very important topics in the current scenario. Since my art mainly revolves around themes related to personal development and self-esteem and self-image are part of this, this is a text to talk about my next project, which has self-esteem and self-image as its central themes.

I am Nycka Nunes, a visual artist, and in this blog I talk about my work and everything that inspires me.

My next project, which I want to exhibit in museums in several countries and sell to clients all over the world, has photography as its main tool and self-esteem and self-image as its central themes.

The project aims to propose reflections for each person to take care of their own self-esteem and personal image while respecting their own beauty, at a time when valuing one's own beauty has become increasingly rare.

The trend of celebrities seeking to return to a natural beauty is quite recent and this may be a sign of greater awareness about what SELF-esteem is.

There are several ways to contribute to the project.

Individuals can contribute through monetary donations of any amount.

Companies and self-employed professionals can contribute through donations or sponsorships, with amounts starting at US$5,000*.

* Value in effect on the date of publication of the text. This amount may change periodically and the updated amount is provided on the “Maecenasship” page of this blog.

To learn about sponsorship options, read the “Maecenasship” page.

People who donate more than five thousand dollars to this project by January 15, 2025 will be entitled to a discount on the purchase of images of the project, once completed, equivalent to 60% of the amount donated. The discount is valid for purchases directly from me when the normal value (without discount) of the purchase is equivalent to at least double the amount donated. This benefit is only valid for donations and not for sponsorships.

The more contributions from individuals and companies, the further the project will go, being shown in more places around the world and offering more visibility to the sponsoring brands.

If your company values ​​the mental health of its employees or works in areas related to beauty and/or health, sponsoring this project is a wise choice to reinforce the brand's commitments. Companies committed to sustainability also have similar benefits. Other business profiles that could benefit from sponsoring my work for various reasons (such as hotels, fashion brands, tourism-related companies, restaurants, gyms, schools, universities, among others) could also contribute and have positive effects on the brand's image.

I haven't decided on the name of the project yet. It has a provisional name, but I can't reveal it before the project is ready because it says a lot about what I have in mind in terms of how to carry it out. I’ll start photographing the project in February 2025.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 11 reasons to hire my stylist services

Having style means expressing the best of your personality through your appearance, using fashion as a tool to achieve this goal and not as a central point.

In this text, I will tell you 11 reasons to hire my stylist services. It doesn't matter if all of them fit your needs. One reason alone is enough for you to visit the services page and hire me to take care of your personal image.

I am Nycka Nunes, a visual artist, graduated in advertising and marketing, and I also offer various types of consulting, including image and style consulting, to individuals and companies all over the world. To see my resume, read my LinkedIn profile. As a stylist, I serve men and women all over the world, offering advice on clothing, makeup, hair and everything related to appearance as a non-verbal communication tool.

1. My resume. There is no stylist in the world with my experience and repertoire. And experience and repertoire make a big difference in the final result of the work. It is a privilege to have access to the knowledge of a professional like me.
2. You, like me, know your value as a human being and as a professional and you want your appearance to reflect this.
3. You understand that beauty opens doors and developing your personal style is the least invasive way to enhance your beauty. And the only way to enhance the beauty you already have, whether you recognize it or not.
4. You understand that as much as you love reading about fashion, watching fashion shows, etc., this does not translate into skills to develop a personal style that represents the best of your personality and enhances your appearance. Being aware of this limitation, you seek to trust an experienced professional to guide you.
5. You also know that following “style tips” from media channels, influencers, magazines, etc., is the path that takes you furthest away from having true style, since thousands of people have access to the same tips and the result is standardization and lack of personality.
6. You understand that having style is not about dressing according to labels. Having style is knowing how to express your personality through your choices of clothing, hair, makeup, etc., while also enhancing your physical appearance by transmitting intentional and conscious messages about yourself through non-verbal communication. Personal style does not accept names.
7. Contrary to what some people say, fashion is NOT intended to destroy anyone's self-esteem. Generally, those who believe in this conspiracy theory already have their self-esteem destroyed for other reasons. An example of how fashion can have the opposite effect is my personal experience. I was bullied by some family members throughout my adolescence (and also in adulthood), and, as a teenager, I was forced to wear clothes in inappropriate sizes and designs that had nothing to do with me. When I started using the expertise of 13 years of career in fashion to develop my own style, at the age of 18, my self-esteem began to develop. Since then, I have contributed to strengthening the self-esteem of many clients and helped them reveal the best of themselves through their personal image.
8. You seek to convey credibility or another characteristic without compromising your personality. You may be, for example, a lawyer or a businessman, but you don't want to limit your wardrobe to black, gray or navy blue suits. The same goes for women.
9. Your self-esteem is healthy enough for you to know that you deserve this investment in your personal image.
10. You are planning to move to another city or country, you have gone through or will go through another type of change in your life (marriage, changes in your professional life, etc.) and you want your appearance to be consistent with this new phase of your life.
11. You are getting married, you know that white doesn't look good on everyone, and you don't want to appear with a literally yellow smile in your wedding photos because you chose the wrong color for your dress, or make other mistakes that will make the images of that special day a source of shame in the future.

I am Nycka Nunes, a stylist with over four decades of experience in the fashion industry, and to hire me you just need to follow the instructions on the services page. All my services are customized according to the needs of the clients.

My main work is art. I never lose sight of that. But I am privileged to have many skills and relevant experience that I can use to contribute to the development of other people and companies and, whenever I have the time, this knowledge can be shared for fair payment.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 You can be a (more) beautiful person without (more) cosmetic procedures

You can be a (more) beautiful person without (more) cosmetic procedures. You are probably a beautiful person, but you just don't know how to value your beauty because you are wasting too much time comparing yourself to people who are different from you, as if someone else's beauty makes yours worthless.

I am Nycka Nunes, a visual artist with a focus on photography. I have worked in the fashion industry for over forty years and I have some experience that can help you discover your beauty instead of looking for something to change your appearance. If you are up for the challenge, read this text until the end.

I could talk about my personal experience as a teenager who thought she was ugly and became an adult who is very confident in her own appearance, and the results of my work as a stylist, but I will take another path to make you reflect on your appearance.

It is important that you write down your answers, to generate the desired reflection. You don't have to show them to anyone if you don't want to, but write them down!

Answer each question without reading the following ones. And do not erase or change the answers before finishing the exercise. It's a matter of being honest with yourself to identify the root of the problem.

Start by listing the physical features you don't like, that make you feel insecure.

After that, list the physical features you like about yourself, that you think are beautiful.

Now, for each feature you like about yourself, list 5 celebrities who have that feature naturally. For each feature that can be changed, list 5 other celebrities who have made some change to look like you (that is, to have that feature that you have naturally). For example, I have naturally full lips and nowadays many celebrities, especially women, have lip fillers to try to have that feature.

Now, for each feature you don't like about yourself, list 5 celebrities who have that feature, looking for examples of beautiful celebrities. There are several who have big noses or thin lips, for example, and they are beautiful.

Now, reflect on the features you don't like about yourself. Has anyone criticised you in the past for having this feature? Where did this rejection of this feature come from?

It's a good idea to consider treating characteristics that are related to physical and mental health. Treating characteristics such as acne and obesity, for example, can do you good.

The next step is to learn to value your beauty. Schedule a photo shoot with me to see yourself in a different light. Follow the instructions on the services page.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 About not being ashamed of being who you are

Nycka, if someone isn't ashamed of being who they are, why should they hire you as a stylist?

Hi, I'm Nycka, and I've been working in the fashion industry since 1981. I'm a stylist and in recent years I've also dedicated myself to the visual arts.

People sometimes confuse not being ashamed of being who they are with being comfortable with being who they are. They are different things and the behaviours of both profiles are different. The root of each of the two profiles is very different.

My work as a stylist aims to develop, over time, a personal style that is aligned with each client's personality and their personal and professional development. What I do is transform my clients' appearance into a powerful non-verbal communication tool, so that people look at my clients and clearly identify some characteristics of their personality before my client opens their mouth to say something. An example of my own experience that I have already shared on my social networks is that, just by managing my way of dressing, several times people in Curitiba, a city famous for the reserved behaviour of its citizens, came to talk to me in shopping malls, supermarkets and other public spaces. 

In recent years I have experienced a very deep process of self-knowledge, and before that I already knew that the standard that other stylists and personal stylists follow to work did not suit me, was not aligned with my values. And because I know my value as a human being and as a professional, I make a point of working with things that I believe in. And I don't see the value in making my clients fit into labels if I reject them myself. I can do it, but I don't like it and I don't see the value in it. I prefer to serve people who see themselves as worthy of the best, who seek an original and unique style, who know that they are wonderful people, like me, and with my professional guidance they can have an appearance that shows this. Authenticity is attractive, and it attracts genuine connections.

Accommodating being who you are is denying the importance of professional guidance for topics that the person does not master. A person who is not ashamed of being who they are knows their own value and the value of having qualified professional guidance. I know that I know a lot of things, and those that I know with a decent level of professionalism I consider as work, and there are many others that I don't know or know how to do without quality and I prefer a professional to take care of them. In the case of my work as a stylist, certainly no one in the world knows how to do it with the same level of quality as me. Nobody has my repertoire and my experience in the area.

To clarify any doubts about my work, you can request an online meeting by following the instructions on the services page. All my services are personalised. I don't follow a pattern. Each client is like a new work of art and my planning is done respecting each one's needs and, whenever possible, their expectations.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 Aesthetic preferences and style of public figures

People's aesthetic preferences vary enormously. What each person considers beautiful depends on their repertoire, how much they appreciate art or not, their understanding of themselves, among other factors. Such preferences have an under appreciated impact on the development of the personal style of celebrities and public figures.

I'm Nycka Nunes, visual artist and stylist.

In a post I saw last week, someone posted that King Charles of England said that Camilla is more beautiful than Diana, and the post had photos of the two ladies at different times. Although, in my opinion, Princess Diana is prettier, I think that, for example, if Charles doesn't like his own nose, Diana's nose is similar to his, while Camilla's is more delicate. And this may explain his preference, if we judge only the visual aspect of the attraction, which is generally influenced by other factors.

I see beauty in people with different traits than mine and also in those who have similar traits (especially when natural), and this awareness of the reasons why some people seek certain characteristics or patterns helps me a lot with this. I have a tendency to look for beauty in everyone (I rarely don't find it), although in this process, through my experience as a stylist, I also observe the mistakes they make that make their appearance less interesting than it could be. When I know them well enough, I also notice when their appearance is inconsistent with their personality, as my work as a stylist has to do with that. It is important to emphasise that considering someone beautiful and considering someone attractive are different things.

The repertoire and how much a person appreciates each art form says a lot about the aesthetic sense of each person and of some social groups. And this is important in the style choices of public figures, to think about a personal image that is developed strategically. I'm not talking about working based on what my client thinks is beautiful. My strategic thinking goes beyond that.

To hire my services and have a style that goes far beyond having impeccable aesthetics, follow the instructions on the services page.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 10 style mistakes of successful men

In this text I point out ten mistakes that, in successful men, devalue their personal image, leaving it vulgar and inelegant.

Just as doing what everyone else does doesn't usually lead to success, when it comes to personal style, being unusual in an intelligent way, with good taste and information brings better results.

I am Nycka Nunes, the best stylist in the world, with over forty years of professional experience in the fashion industry and other relevant credentials. Hiring me as your stylist is the way to have an above average image.

Some common mistakes:

1. Wear huge logos. Mainly on t-shirts, but also on other clothing items.
2. Suits. Every successful man wears suits with some regularity. You need to have suits. The problem is not wearing a suit, but issues of lengths, colours, fabrics and adjustments aiming for a perfect and extraordinary result.
3. Hair colour. A mistake that I notice especially among professional football players when they bleach their hair, usually in shades that don't flatter them.
4. Wear t-shirts and jeans most of the time outside the house. Most men have a very limited clothing repertoire. The world of men's fashion offers a multitude of options that are even more comfortable and much prettier than jeans and a t-shirt.
5. Use of sneakers that is excessive or inappropriate. There are different types of sneakers for different occasions and occasions that don't go well with sneakers, and there are clothes that don't look good with sneakers no matter the occasion. Many people turn to sneakers because they don't know how to buy shoes in order to find ones that are beautiful and comfortable. Others do it out of bad taste. And they are both making bad choices.
6. Tasteless details. Eyebrow cuts, certain details in haircuts that are common among low-income people, use of counterfeit products, excess gold chains, gold teeth, etc.
7. Wearing clothes in inappropriate sizes and/or lengths.
8. Obvious and simplistic colour combinations. Wear a monochromatic outfit, or black with white or any combination of colours that are too obvious, especially neutral tones.
9. Ridiculous colour combinations. It's very common among those who don't have a stylist to ask things like "what colour shirt can I wear with moss green trousers?". Unless the person is colourless from head to toe (and no one is), any colour in response to this question will lead to a ridiculous result. That's why you should hire me as your stylist.
10. Sports accessories with suit.

There are certainly many other mistakes, and if you make any of these or want to move from the phase of avoiding mistakes to the phase of developing a style that reflects the best of your personality, I recommend hiring my work as your stylist. Visit the services page.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 About personal style

I am an artist. As a stylist, too. If you want to be one of the crowd, you can follow fashion influencers. That's why they exist. My work is for anyone who is or wants to be the protagonist of their own life; for people who, having qualified guidance, one of the best in the world, are willing to dress with personality and real style, looking for a perfect fit and good finish. I like to serve those who want to be a style reference and value their own beauty to the fullest, because beauty opens doors. My work is perfect for public figures, but I also work with businesspeople and other people who are not constantly seen in the media.

I like boldness and originality. Even when dressing people with a more discreet personality, I look for ways to be original while respecting the client's personality. Personality is more important than the shape of your face, body or hair type.

Those men who will never wear suits in their lives that are not black, grey or navy blue and always opt for super conventional fabrics should not hire my styling service. Women who want to dress like their friends or have celebrities as a style reference and want to stay that way are also not prepared to be style references for other people through my work. I don't have much patience to deal with excessively closed-minded people, governed by their own fears and insecurities. I respect the pace of clients, but I recognise and respect my tolerance limits as well. The person who is satisfied with mediocrity is not the type of person I want to dedicate my time to serving.

I have an unparalleled repertoire in this market and that is one of the best things about having started working at 5 years old. Not that I applaud whoever put me to work so early. For me, those people are dead. But I'm not going to cry about a past that can't be changed.

In photography and visual arts work I also follow the same basis of using my knowledge of style to create memorable images of clients. In the visual arts I shy away from realism as much as I shy away from cheap clothes in personal style work.

What kind of person are you? What kind of person do you want to be?

Discover my work as a stylist and become a style reference. Service available to customers around the world. For up-to-date information about countries where I serve in person, read the services page or send me a message. If you have questions about my work, send me an email or schedule an online meeting on the services page (some questions I only answer in meetings).

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 How to be sexy?

How to be sexy?

Sensuality sells. It’s good for your personal brand when used properly. What is seen as sensual varies between one group and another. Kate Midleton can be seen as a sexy woman by some groups while others prefer Cardi B. Personally, I am not part of either extreme, but I understand the value of both and many others for their audiences.

Valuing sensuality is important for my work and yours.

Watch and you will see that, in one way or another, people are attracted to it.

Sensuality is a double-edged sword. Being sensual for one group implies being rejected by another. Do you know how to deal with rejection? What tribe do you want to attract? And do you want to be just another member of this tribe or do you want to be unforgettable?

Discover my services and discover intelligent ways to see and show your sensuality. And unless you are a very repressed person, I'm sure it exists. Even if your self-esteem is low.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 What do you love most about yourself?

What do you love most about yourself? What features of your appearance do you like most? And what personality traits do you appreciate most?

As adults, we can carry traumas that prevent us from seeing our strengths; we can not have such traumas and clearly see our strengths, and we can overcome traumas and have a positive perception about who we are (which is my case).

Hi, I'm Nycka Nunes, visual artist and photographer and I invite you to discover my work and record your beauty and other characteristics of your personality in personalised photo shoots and also artistic portraits (non-realistic) in the form of paintings on canvas or digital art delivered as a poster. The options are varied. I work with themed, realistic or fantasy photoshoots, and also boudoir or nude shoots, always seeking an original look and showing, in the images, a little of each client's best personality characteristics, in addition to their physical beauty.

I believe that every healthy person has some type of beauty that can be highlighted in a photoshoot. And if you think you deserve to record the best of you today, visit the services page and schedule your photoshoot with me. We talk about the details in the online meeting. The service is available to customers around the world.

Ah, besides loving my physical beauty, I immensely appreciate my creativity, my professionalism, and many other qualities and talents that I have. I also appreciate the courage I had to face my traumas and restart my life according to my values ​​and interests. Some of my talents I was born with, others perhaps were developed throughout life or discovered late (in most cases I believe in the second option).

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 About cruel things I've heard

I grew up living with my maternal grandmother. I was never praised by my mother's family, and even achievements that should be seen as positive were ignored. “You didn’t do more than you had to,” they said. And I heard almost every day that I was ugly, stupid and useless. To make it even cooler, the only celebrity who had features similar to me in that remote past was the Brazilian actress Cristina Pereira, and I didn't see anything beautiful about her. Possibly because I didn't see anything beautiful about myself after hearing so much that I was ugly. Looking today, I might think the actress Mayara Magri looked like me at the time. She was beautiful. But I didn't think I was beautiful, so I didn't see this similarity.

It's hard to single out a single cruel thing from my past. I think that bombarding a creative and initiative child with criticism is very cruel, but it is an attitude of weak people, who see girls as dolls. In fact, they dressed me as if I were a doll. To this day, I hate clothes full of ruffles and ribbons for that reason. I prefer a tomboy image than a doll image. My style flirts more with androgyny than with the image of a romantic girl. Even when I wear fluid and delicate dresses, I break the romanticism with heavy boots or other style resources. I don't identify 100% with female stereotypes. And I feel perfectly comfortable in a female body.

The treatment of boys was different. I played with them and realised their privileges. None of my brothers or my cousin worked when they were kids. I did. And that's the smallest of differences. They respected me while those who used to disrespect me were female figures. This way, I have an easier time cultivating male friendships. Women who embrace the role of fragile, crying dolls irritate me. After the long and painful healing process I went through, I became very intolerant of adult snowflakes, who are offended by anything, regardless of gender. Because they are the ones who cause immense damage to children's minds. And we should really take care of the well-being of children, who do not know how to defend themselves from the cruelty that can exist in their own families. Not taking care of adults who should already have the discernment to take care of their own mental health.

Once, when Fátima Bernardes was an anchor on JN, she had a very nice cut with short hair (possibly straight like mine). And I said that I would like to have hair like that. I hated my long hair, which was impossible to style because nothing could keep them styled for more than two hours. I spent an hour in the shower washing and untangling them. And they weren't even long like many wear today. They generally didn't go more than 15 or 20cm below the shoulders. And when I made that comment, my youngest aunt who was sitting nearby said the following kindly: “the only beautiful thing you have is your hair. If you cut it, what will be left?” 😁 Cute. Loving. Only not.

But stupid I knew I wasn't. I don't see how someone who gets good grades without cheating (and often without studying) could be stupid. And I ended up changing my self-image, which was negative for a long time due to this strong negative family influence, by noticing this gap, this little finger of lies that made the whole lie fall apart. And yet they continued with the lie.

I've been wearing short hair for over twenty years. I wore beautiful cuts and sometimes the hairdressers weren't able to do a good job. I tried countless colours. While common sense says that hair is a frame for your face, I made my hair my canvas to create art, just like I've done with my wardrobe since I was 18.

Nothing said to an adult by third parties is more cruel than a shower of criticism and zero praise for a child from their own family. But even this can be overcome. So, nowadays, when I see people saying that we can't say this and that to adults because it's offensive, when the term itself isn't offensive, I just see a person with whom I have no interest in getting acquainted with, because I don't see anyone standing up against parents and family members who bully their own children or who educate them based on threats and punishments. In Brazil, even lullabies have a content that incites fear. It's ridiculous.

I learned a lot throughout my life. I can contribute professionally to people who want to leave victimhood in the past. It's not often that I have the time or interest in helping others overcome barriers that I overcame on my own, but it eventually happens. Follow the services available on the services page and follow my profiles on social media if my journey inspires you. I recommend that you start by booking a photo session, which is always available.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 People are art

I see people as works of art. My visual intelligence is much greater than my other intelligences.

Most people are like unfinished works of art, or developed without the proper tools to get the best result. Some are so devoid of any aesthetic sense that it is almost offensive to see them. On the other hand, there are people who are aware of their limitations and seek qualified guidance to enhance their natural beauty.

In photography I have the opportunity to immortalise the maximum beauty of each client, using the appropriate tools to build an artistically planned style to exalt the best of each client's personality through the images.

As a child and teenager, my family didn't allow me to have a say in what clothes to wear. As I had been working since I was five years old, I have much more fashion information than the vast majority of people. And, at 18, after spending my entire adolescence dressing in ways that I hated because I didn't have autonomy in choosing clothes, I began to develop my personal style and the style of other people who sought my help when they noticed the change. And it was a huge change. I had been passionate about art since childhood, but I was not encouraged by my family with poor habits and high purchasing power. So I started using my personal image to exercise my needs to make art. And I've been doing it ever since.

I know the difference that clothes, accessories, a good haircut and the right choice of colours can make in a person's life. I've told countless times on social media how people in Curitiba, a city renowned for the coldness of its residents, approached me spontaneously for the simple fact that I was wearing an old red sweatshirt or a royal blue dress, unusual colours in the wardrobe of locals and impossible to find (those colours) in city stores when I moved there. Imitating is easy. Being a pioneer, unique, knowing the consequences of each choice, is not for everyone. Having memorable, artistic and unique photos is also not for everyone.

Beauty has enchanted me since childhood. Not standardised beauty, but the beauty that only exists in the individuality of people who are truly satisfied with being who they are and who seek the most appropriate professionals to enhance and record this natural beauty.

Discover my services and follow my profiles on social media.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 Demystifying ethical non-monogamous relationships and polyamory

This is a text to demystify ethical non-monogamous relationships, including polyamory. If you know a person who prefers ethical non-monogamous relationships or if you are a person who has this preference and cannot explain it to those who see themselves as monogamous due to lack of knowledge about other possibilities, read until the end, share and follow my profiles on social networks for more content. It is also useful as an introduction to the topic for people who know me, personally or virtually, and have no knowledge about ethical non-monogamous relationships.

I'm Nycka Nunes and on this blog and on my social media I talk about a variety of topics, generally related to personal development and broadening one's horizons.

People are used to thinking that we can only love one person at a time, and they think of love for a boyfriend or girlfriend as something essentially different from the love we feel for dear friends or family. And they see romantic relationships as a ladder or a series of steps. It is common for women to see marriage and children as life goals, but with each new generation such goals become more distant from the priorities of younger people, possibly due to the rigid and unnatural model of relationships in previous generations and because divorces are not a great inspiration. to marry. More information means more options and more informed decisions.

The way I see ethical non-monogamous relationships, including polyamory, and if you received the link to this text from someone, possibly they have a similar view to mine on the subject, is that love is equal, whether it is love for a boyfriend, a friend or a dear family member. In the case of romantic relationships, there is the addition of sexual attraction and compatibility, and any other criteria you have for dating someone.

Let's think about the issue of compatibility from other angles to make it clearer.

All of us, monogamous or not, have a variety of friends with different profiles. We have those friends who are great at accompanying us to shows of our favourite bands. And those with whom it's good to talk about books or films. We have those friends who console and advise us when we have problems in romantic relationships. And several other profiles. Trying to force friends to be great friends at all times is a waste of time because each person has their own strengths and limitations. Yes, we can have friends who are great for a variety of circumstances. But not all of them are like that and that doesn't diminish the value of any of them.

In romantic relationships, for those who live polyamory, we can also love different people simultaneously, because each person is unique and has different characteristics from the others. Each person has different qualities and different limitations, whether in the sexual field or outside of it. Although most people are “vanilla” (they have a certain sexual standard with a very limited repertoire of practices compared to the countless possibilities that exist), and this reduces the options for sexual differences, more due to lack of knowledge than by choice, still, the personal characteristics are different.

Even due to legal unfeasibility, because many countries only allow monogamous marriages, those seeking ethical non-monogamous relationships tend not to see the relationship as a sequence of steps. The relationship with each individual is a building towards getting to know each other better day by day, and this may or may not result in marriage or children.

If you analyse the phase of literary romanticism you will see that romantic love is not the most inspiring thing in the world. It's great that we can evolve, seek self-knowledge and develop healthier relationships.

Discover my services and follow my profiles on social media for more content.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 How to find a good hairdresser

How to find a good hairdresser?

Finding a good hairdresser requires us to look for it knowing what to look for. So, I have some tips for you, after all, I'm a photographer and naturally beautiful, healthy and well-cut hair makes for more beautiful photos.

First of all, never go to the hairdresser with just one cut in mind. The chances of frustration are immense and really good hairdressers prefer to explore their own creativity when creating cuts for clients. The first time you go to a hairdresser, bring pictures of several different cuts that you like on people wearing the cuts. This serves as a reference for him to understand your taste. Try to explain to him what these images convey to you and what image you would like to convey. Also enter the length you would like to cut, having the common sense to be shorter than the length needed to remove split ends and other warning signs from the hair. And leave him free to create a cut with all this information. A bad hairdresser will try to imitate one of your haircuts. A good one can create something that has nothing to do with the images you took, but conveys the characteristics you said you wanted to convey.

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